When I was a kid I always found it funny when other kids would use that taunt with me. Acting my shoe size when I was around 10 years old wasn’t really an insult. See, I have REALLY small feet, and back then, my shoe size was a 13 (little kids size). Back then, someone saying to me, “Act your age, not your shoe size!” meant I was acting 13 years old! Older than I actually was.
But now that I am older, even though my shoe size is still rather small (just barely adult size), I wonder what it means to “act your age”? Is there a specific way that I’m supposed to act now? Are there things that I’m not allowed to do now that I’m older? What would happen if I do something that only a 30 year old is “allowed” to do? Or something only allowed when you’re in your 20s? Do the “age appropriate police” come by and give me a summons? Do I get charged as an “adult” in “younger adult” court? Is there a list out there somewhere that would tell me what I should or should not be doing at a particular age?
At this point in my life, I have friends of all ages. Well, not kids or teens. But I have friends in their 20’s, 30s, 40, and on up. We all seem to have enough in common to have a good time and enjoy hanging out. I think the saying “age is just a number” may be correct. I don’t think it’s necessarily someone’s age that will define the things they like to do or how mature they act. I know plenty of people my age or older who are extremely immature! And I know some people much younger than I am who are already acting like old fuddy-duddies! For the most part, I think people act like an average of all ages!
With me personally, even when I was younger, I wasn’t the type that wanted to just go to a crowded bar to “hang out”, standing around with a drink in your hand, waiting for some guy to come talk to you. Maybe because I’m short and being in a crowded bar, all I’m seeing are people’s armpits! But make that a dance club and I was there! I still would be there. I love to dance!! Get the music playing, and I’m gonna be shaking my boo-tay!
When I was younger, I loved doing things that gave me an adrenaline rush! Roller coasters, flying trapeze, riding on motorcycles and even planning to go sky diving one day. Then, back in 2009 I had a little accident and a large injury. I went through 2 surgeries and almost 9 months of physical therapy! And it definitely has had an effect on my ability to do certain physical things to this day. Not that I let that stop me. But it also had an influence on my feelings about doing things that are a bit risky. But that has nothing to do with my age. That only happened after the injury.
Now I don’t think I’ll ever jump out of a plane (unless it’s going down, and I am forced to eject). Yet, I still LOVE roller coasters and other adrenaline inducing things. I don’t think that will ever change. Not even when I’m 95! But now, I do get a bit more nervous about doing these things. Not that it stops me, it’s just now it makes me think first … and then I do it anyway!
So, what does “acting my age” look like? What is it that I’m supposed to be doing or not be doing now that I am older? If I start to “act my age”, won’t that just make me age more quickly? Because we are all getting older. We have no control over that, and the alternative sucks. But does that mean we need to get older in all ways? Do we need to act older?
If that’s what it means, then I may just have to break the rules! Because I don’t feel the age I am now and I sure as shineola won’t be acting the way people expect someone my age to act! But, I probably won’t be acting my shoe size either!
[REPOST FROM PRIOR BLOG]